By being so direct, Heidi saved herself the torture of spending the rest of her vacation in her own head, trying to figure out what was in his.
Of course, my professional advice from the get-go would have been to roll the dating app talk into the "are we exclusive" convo so all bases were covered before these two went away together.
Instead, you're constantly reassuring yourself other people are out there just in case -- and you might even be casting harsher judgment on the person you're with, looking for things to be wrong or not diving in to repair issues as they arise.
The problem Nina is something’s off in your relationship. If you trusted him, you wouldn’t have created a fake profile after two months.
You know that a relationship is based on mutual trust. I can’t tell you to break up with someone if you think he’s your soulmate. So you can continue to be quiet and log onto your fake profile to see the exact moment he last logged on and make yourself sick in the process, or try to find someone who will think you’re amazing enough to ditch the dating apps to be in your arms. I can only hope that you take your fake profile down and never create another one to try to snoop on a guy you really like.
Doing so would have prevented Heidi from feeling blindsided -- either because her boyfriend would have already deleted the app(s) in question, or because she would have had a clear sense of where they were in their relationship so she could deal with the inconsistency appropriately and with clear boundaries. And in this fast-paced, competitive meat market, a missed opportunity might never be available again.
A lot of people feed into this by keeping their options open even after entering monogamous relationships.
Something is missing in your relationship if he feels the need to communicate with women on a dating app. I’d want to be in a relationship built on mutual trust. I’m sorry you’re going through this now, but being on a dating site when you’re in a relationship is disrespectful. My best advice to you is as follows: The next time to have trust in a new relationship. Men don’t like being with an insecure needy person. Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.