You’d be surprised at how many single mothers go on long rants on their dating profiles about how their children already have a father and how they are not looking for a new father, blah, blah, blah.Trust me, the rest of us have no desire to try to replace your child’s other parent, but when you talk about it so much, it makes us start to wonder.
I could write a book on all the reasons why this is a bad idea, but until I do, please just trust me on this one.
The best thing for a step-parent to do is to merely Much like the 10 Commandments being the basis for our modern legal system, this list is just a starting point for dating as a parent.
There are a number of fine books on dating for single parents out there, but until you’ve read a few, keep these tips in your back pocket in case of emergency. Scott Carroll is an associate professor of child and adolescent psychiatry and is the Director of Psychiatric Consultation Services at the University of New Mexico Children’s Hospital where he specializes in pediatric psycho-oncology and neuropsychiatry.
He is also a full mesa carrying shaman in the Andean tradition and the founder of the Ayni Neuroscience Institute, which is dedicated to the integration of indigenous healing wisdom and cutting edge neuroscience.
Here is my top 10 list of things parents and people dating parents should never do, based on my experience as a child psychiatrist, step-parent, parent, step-child and recent online dater.