There is research that indicates that coverts (usually referred to as “vulnerable” or “stealth” narcissists in the academic literature) are MORE likely than overt (or “grandiose”) to engage in domestic violence in the early phases of a relationship and to abuse children. To be quite honest its the been the most difficult course Ive ever produced for me personally.
This leads to crushing feelings of frustrating isolation as you feel like you are the only one on the planet who can see this gaping disparity in the person and it’s impossible to explain to anyone not experiencing the abuse directly. This is when the self doubt sets in, you are never sure if the abuse is in fact abuse and are left with the endless agony of wondering if you are sick one and if its not in fact all your fault.
This is of course exactly what the covert narcissist wants you to believe.
All the flattery of the initial meeting is a phase in which they are sizing you up, quite possibly full to the brim with boiling envy and narcissistic rage that you have something that they “deserve” to be given the purpose of which is to learn your weaknesses and vulnerabilities so they can drain you dry.
Overt narcissists are a walk in the park compared to the covert, and they genuinely are a nastier breed.
It’s my intention that this course educate you about elements of psychology that are not well understood at this time, in a way that is functional and non academic and not boring. It’s also my intention this course give you some relief from the pain and anxiety you are experiencing right now and that it eradicates the cause of you being in the relationship in the first place.