I now think dating can be a healthy part of a person developing relationally and learning the qualities that matter most in a partner.”“To those who read my book and were misdirected or unhelpfully influenced by it, I am sincerely sorry…And to those of you who benefitted from my book, I am so grateful that something I wrote helped you.
The fact that a flawed man could write a flawed book and somehow that could help some people is amazing to me.
These choices are not the defining qualities of who I am.”When did you first start to notice there were a lot of people who were hurt by the book?
I remember reading criticism early on but I had people around me at the time who were saying: “You just need to stand your ground”, “You need to be a strong leader”, “You’re too worried about people’s criticism.” So I shoved all that aside.
Two decades on from reading and following the ‘rules’ contained therein, Jessica was still single.
“I was doing everything right, where was my future husband? “I wanted to make a documentary so a greater spectrum of Christian voices could be heard on this important topic.
But, to borrow an analogy from the automotive industry, if a car serves some people but a flaw in its design causes damage to others, good intentions by the carmaker and even the endorsement of other customers don’t override the problem.”You were 21 years old when the book was published. I had been in the dating scene, had different girlfriends and had reached a point where relationships were the one area in my life that I wasn’t willing to consider in light of my Christian faith.