But afterwards, when I did a thorough Insta-stalk, I was kind of weirded out to find that there were more than a dozen photos of scantily-clad Black women on his page, clearly sourced from Google or Tumblr.
It’s hard to articulate why this made me uncomfortable but this feeling was hard to shake.
After editing her photos to make her skin white, while leaving all of her features and profile details intact, she concluded that online dating is skin deep.
This manifests in many ways, from harsh stereotyping to hypersexualization and the policing of our appearance.
From my experience, being a Black woman on Tinder means that with each swipe I’m more likely to encounter veiled and overt displays of anti-blackness and misogyny.“Online dating dehumanizes me and other people of colour,” Roderique concluded.
I had grown accustomed to the ease of being boo’d up; the routine and rhythm that comes with knowing someone so well.
Naturally, being on a date with a complete stranger, like the one I was waiting for at that downtown restaurant, was an adjustment.
As I waited for my Tinder date to arrive, I got deeper and deeper into his social media.