It’s not about conquering or failing the trials of aging, but rather deepening our humanity by accepting the middle ground. D., is emeritus professor at the University of Minnesota and a family therapist in St Paul, Minn.
She is a popular speaker and consultant on the topic of ambiguous loss, a term she coined in the 1970s.
I’ve been putting off this post for a long time, but after writing about why men are breast obsessed, it seemed an opportune time to bring it up.
And because make the choice, you still have self-control, the dignity of free will, and the possibility of new hope.
If you let go of what society deems the ideal marital relationship, you are freed from a standard that realistically you can no longer meet, and able to find satisfaction in the marriage that fits your own situation.
Accepting the good enough released him, and both he and his wife were better off.
When faced with spouses who have conditions that have no cure, we can lower our stress if we continue to live lives of creativity and curiosity instead of trying to fix the problem or meet impossible expectations.
Recently, I saw a man in my office who said he felt hopeless.