I knew it was harder for me to get what I wanted, and a lot of that was self-inflicted. What I was doing in my early 20s, by dating older men, was showing myself that maybe there was hope.That someday I could make some money and be successful and create a life for myself, just like these older men.
I was 21 and vaguely dating a 50-year-old guy I had met through friends. When he invited me over the day of the garden tour, I think I not so subtly asked him what his parents did, because I couldn’t believe someone could have this home without family money.
We hooked up for the first time at a huge house party I had that was filled with other early- to mid-20s people. But he was handsome, and I knew from friends he was successful — at the time, anything above a yellow basement seemed really appealing. I still don’t understand how people make that kind of money — but at 21, I really didn’t. He indulged me by following Laura Dern around instead of looking at the gardens, which was definitely not the first time she had been stalked by gay men at a garden party.
Not just girls, older men dating younger women also get a package of advantages from such a relationship.
Lots of women seeking older men already know where to find them.